We sat down with the experts at The Children’s Center for Psychiatry, Psychology, & Related Services to get an understanding of tips and strategies for helping children who are struggling with the idea of going back to school after the holiday break.
Q: Is it normal for kids to have a hard time returning to school after a long break?
Yes. Many children find transitions challenging, especially after a stretch of relaxed routines, extra screen time, family activities, or travel. Returning to early mornings, homework, and social demands can feel overwhelming. Some children show this through worry, irritability, stomachaches, or resistance before school. These reactions are common, but when they persist or start interfering with daily life, they may need extra support.
Q: What are some early signs that a child is anxious about going back to school?
Kids often communicate distress through behavior rather than words. You might notice trouble sleeping, increased clinginess, emotional outbursts, or sudden complaints of physical discomfort. Some children withdraw or lose interest in activities they usually enjoy. Others might ask repeated questions about school, express fear of specific situations, or avoid talking about it altogether. These cues can help you understand what your child needs during the transition.
Q: How can parents re-establish structure without overwhelming their child?
Start small. Gradually shift bedtime and morning routines a few days before school resumes. Reintroduce schedules such as reading before bed, packing lunches the night before, or setting out clothes for the next morning. Consistency helps kids feel safe. It can also be helpful to talk about what the first day back will look like so your child knows what to expect.
Q: What should parents say if their child is worried or upset about returning?
Listen first. Let your child share what feels hard without trying to correct or minimize the fear. You can say things like, “It makes sense that this feels tough after a long break,” or “Thank you for telling me how you’re feeling.” Once your child feels heard, you can problem-solve together. Ask what might help them feel more comfortable, and brainstorm small steps that feel achievable.
Q: What if the worries are related to social concerns or academic stress?
Social worries and academic pressure often show up after holiday breaks. If your child is nervous about friendships, help them practice simple conversation starters or plan a low-pressure playdate. If academics are the concern, reach out to your child’s teacher to understand what support might be available.
Q: What strategies help on the first morning back?
Create a calm start by building in extra time. A comforting morning ritual, like listening to a favorite song or sharing breakfast together, can help your child begin the day on the right foot. Offer encouragement, but avoid lengthy reassurances or last-minute negotiations, which can unintentionally increase anxiety. A quick, confident goodbye sets a clear and supportive tone for the day.
Q: When should a parent consider seeking outside help?
If anxiety lasts longer than a couple of weeks, causes significant distress, or leads to ongoing school refusal, it may be time to consult a mental health professional. Early intervention can prevent patterns from becoming more entrenched. A therapist can teach coping skills, address underlying worries, and support both the child and family through the transition back to school.
If you’re concerned about your child’s return to school after the holidays, our team is here to help you take the next step – contact us today.